The ABC Life Blog

We started our G month with enthusiasm but our choices greeted us with disappointment.

2 points – Activity: GALLERY reGRETS

We went to see Speechless: different by design at the Dallas Museum of Art. This new exhibit aims to bring together various ways we connect with the world through multisensory and interactive experiences. Its goal is to provide new perspectives on how we can communicate. While we both enjoy abstract art, this exhibit did not capture our hearts or heads for that matter. There needed to be more explanation for the visitor and although there was a room that attempted to do this each of the six artists’ thoughts, it was disjointed and hard to piece together. It would have been more meaningful and instructive to have each design’s story and intent in the room where it was showcased. If the goal of “speechless” was to let each person come to his or her own conclusion, it still left a lot to be desired.  But that is only our opinion. The beautiful thing about art is that everyone’s interpretation is unique and personal.

1 point – GOURMET GRAZING

One of the local supermarkets advertised a free entertaining expo with samples of extraordinary holiday finds. We were intrigued and headed out but were sadly turned off. There were just a few samples and they were nothing out of the ordinary. Plus, this market always has samples so it was no different than normal and their advertising made it seem as if it would be.

1 point – GAME STORE

We learned that there was a gaming group meetup at Doc’s Comics and Games and thought we’d get a peek into the world of video gamers. It turned out to be board games which we would have enjoyed even more as we have always loved playing them. However all the board games were like a video game on a board – all fantasy and role playing. I guess the game world has passed us by. But we’re glad that the younger generation is actually meeting their “playmates” in person rather than in cyberspace.

2 points – Books

All Barbara’s F books were  Failures but Laura made up for it with two good ones:

I Liked My Life by Abby FABIASCHI

This may be my favorite book read so far this year. The writing is smart, witty at times and full of “truisms” – those nuggets that stop you and make you think. It’s about motherhood, marriage and relationships – and it’s also about suicide, grief and loss. It’s hard to believe this is her debut novel but I certainly hope it won’t be long until I can read another Fabiaschi book. Discovering new authors is another great reason to pursue The ABC Life and, in this case, the author not only writes beautifully but is a human rights advocate and has co-founded Empower Her Network, an organization that helps survivors of human trafficking.

The Woman in the Window by A.J. FINN

This well-written suspense thriller is about a New York child psychologist who suffers from agoraphobia. Anna hasn’t left her house in months and spends most of her time watching old movies and spying on her neighbors. One day she witnesses a terrible crime in the house across the park (shades of Hitchcock’s Rear Window) and things spiral out of control. In the age of the #MeToo movement, there’s a recognizable thread that no one believes Anna. Another debut novel, but this time the author is less than broadly admired by his peers. His real name is Dan Mallory and his story is even more bizarre than most fiction, with lies and embellishments part of his daily persona. He has generated quite the scandal within the publishing world.

1 point – Learning Center

Laura: FOLD and Shake

Well, actually it’s Shake and FOLD – a movement that the GREENWorks organization says will save 286 tons of trash or 571,230,000 paper towels every year. I’m up for that so I learned the Shake and Fold method to do my part. It’s all about paper towels and using only one paper towel to dry your hand in public restrooms, rather than using several as most of use usually do. You shake the water from your hands 12 times and then take one paper towel, fold it once and then dry your hands. I’ve tried it several times and it works!

Barbara: FESTIVUS For the Rest of Us

Laura and I are major Seinfeld fans and in keeping with one of their episodes about an alternative holiday to the commercialism of Christmas, we went several years ago to a Festivus celebration at a winery. So I thought I’d see if there was anything behind this holiday and there was. Festivus was conceived by author Daniel O’Keefe and was celebrated by his family as early as 1966, resulting in his son writing the Seinfeld episode.  Festivus includes the “Airing of Grievances” during the main meal, where you can tell each person all the ways they have disappointed you over the past year. This is followed by  the “Feats of Strength” involving wrestling the host to the floor. A tall Festivus pole replaces the traditional Christmas tree. So if you’re looking to make a change this holiday season and you don’t mind arguments and body contact, Festivus might be for you.

Time to move Forward. Farewell to F and soon-to-be Greetings to G!

2 points – Activity – Day of the Dead FESTIVAL

Laura recently introduced the movie Coco to Barbara so how apropos that the sisters made the Denton Day of the Dead Festival their final festival of the month. Now this was a festival that delivered. There were many attendees who looked like they were returning from the after life to join in the festivities.

People went all out to create coffins for the coffin races.

And there were vendors galore. Barbara was “dead” set on buying a skeleton bride and groom but surprisingly none were for sale so she had to make do with a mug showing the “spirited” couple.

To top off the day we went to a Mexican restaurant and spent the next hour “goblin” down our food.

How fortunate that we found three Flower related things to do in our F month: a city, a restaurant and a TV show.

2 points – New City

Roughly a half-hour drive but never visited, FLOWER MOUND called our name. We chose to visit their FARMERS Market, but unfortunately there was hardly any fresh produce (off season) and relatively few craft booths, but we did discover a new vendor for jam and jellies.  After sampling a few, we settled on the No Sugar Plum and No Sugar Blueberry Jam – and you really couldn’t tell it had no sugar! But since we did want more edibles, we drove another eight miles to the Coppell FARMERS Market where we found delightful FAIRYTALE Eggplants. These purple and white striped miniature eggplants made for a delicious addition to a newfound pasta recipe.

2 points – New Restaurant

FLOWER CHILD Restaurant in Addison was a wonderful discovery and we loved their motto: live wild and FREE! Everything is made from scratch, using farm-fresh ingredients, and there is an ample selection of bowls, grains, greens and wraps. We had the Mother Earth Bowl and the Mediterranean Quinoa and both were delicious!

1 point – TV show

The bloom was definitely off for our third Flower pick. FLOWERS, a British black-comedy about a weird and eccentric family, received outstanding reviews from Rotten Tomatoes, The Guardian and The New York Times, but did not come out smelling like a rose for these sisters.  We gave it a try but both of us could not even make it through the first episode.

We recently joined a group called Tales From Abroad, where someone who has lived in – not just traveled to – another country shares something about daily life there and brings samples of the food common to the country. This first time we learned about India. Our hostess shared fascinating details of her life in India. We found out that there are 29 states in India, speaking 22 different languages. Can you imagine going from Texas to Louisiana to New York and the language is different in each state? (Although some might say it is!) We got to examine her collection of beautiful saris (72 of them) and bangles, as well as sample several types of dessert and a cup of chai. Chai actually means tea so we now know not to order Chai Tea as that is actually saying we want tea tea. We’ll just knowingly order Chai.

2 points – New FOODS

Next stop on our “world travels” was Cuba. One of our book clubs was reading the book Next Year in Havana by Chanel Cleeton, so naturally the discussion took place at E. B. Latin Bistro. We had a delicious lunch of grilled shrimp with rice and black beans while discussing the politics of Cuba under Batista and Castro. We still talk about possibly going to Cuba one day when travel is not as restricted as it is now.

The last country on our journey was Lebanon. Ever since we went to the Egyptian street food restaurant for E month, we have been drawn to anything that advertises itself as street food. So how lucky to find Board Bites in Plano. We ordered the Kafka wrap, which was beef with spices and a homemade hummus in a toasted pita. We accompanied that with Fattoush, which is similar to a Greek salad but with the addition of pita chips drizzled with pomegranate molasses. Everything was delicious and the staff was very friendly and generously gave us a sample of two pieces of falafel. Then to cap things off for the day, we found a Lebanese bakery. OMG the desserts were great. The owner gave us a sample of three types of baklava (theirs are made with sugar instead of honey) and two types of shortbread cookies. Then Laura bought a sample of a dozen different desserts to bring back home. Once again, we probably would never have tried these wonderful cuisines had we not been traveling Far and wide for F month.

2 points – Activity

Time for Festival #2 – The Plano International Festival. On our walk from the car to the festival ground we found the 1418 coffee shop. We were neither thirsty nor hungry but, hey, it’s F month so in we went. The shop had the usual couches and computer counters. Cappuccino – great; muffin too cakey.

On to the festival. Unlike the Peanut Festival in Aubrey this one showcased what it advertised – international foods and products. Tents from various countries (the diversity was impressive) were set up and international music was playing from the main stage. Although we didn’t make a purchase, it was nice walking around and watching the children exploring the goodies.

For lunch we selected another spot that fit the bill –  Fillmore Pub. Barbara was drawn to the chalk board highlighting Guiness and Smithwicks as she developed a taste for them while visiting Ireland. Verdict: the beer was great, food not so much but we weren’t expecting high dining from a pub. All told a fun day that we wouldn’t have experienced had it not been for the ABC Life.

Laura: 2 Points – Activity: FORMING FRIENDSHIPS

Barbara and I both want to leave some type of written record of our lives for our children and the generations to come. I had thought that, if nothing else, I would print out the ABC Life pages and make them into a scrapbook because they capture things that I’ve done and thought about. But Barbara started “My Memories to My Children” – a collection of her answers to many questions about her life (based on hundreds of prompts that she found in a book). It’s a massive project but one that I will start myself (I just have to find the time…yikes!). So when our Newcomer group formed a new activity, “FORMING FRIENDSHIPS,” whose main focus was on asking questions that reveal a little bit about oneself, we both were interested. Barbara attended last month but I didn’t get a chance to join in until this month – our F month. Their questions had us searching our memory banks (“who was your craziest/most interesting teacher?”, “when was the last time you did something for the first time and what was it?”) and revealed intriguing (often amusing) things about our fellow attendees. What a fun experience – we get to further our own cause and enjoy new friendships!

2 Points – Movie Theme – FITTING IN

We watched the movie “Dumplin,” which was about the overweight daughter of an ex-beauty queen. Growing up, she was closest to her aunt and never quite fit the image of what she thought of as her mother’s ideal daughter. As a form of protesting the perfect beauty pageant image, she decides to submit her application to this year’s pageant. Along the way she forms Friendships with two other “outsiders” who don’t FIT IN. However, going through the pageant process, they all discover that fitting in doesn’t have to be the same for everyone. By being true to themselves, they found that they only needed to “fit in” to themselves and that was the real “prize.” We found this movie to be full of clichés – from her skinny best friend to the cute guy who falls for her to another of her group placing in the pageant and her mother growing closer to her. Despite all the clichés, we didn’t dislike it as much by the end as we did in the beginning.

2 Points – Activity – Aubrey Peanut FESTIVAL

This month Texas is chock full of Festivals so we are going to three of them! Our first one was in Aubrey and should have been called the NON-Peanut Festival. We went expecting to see vendors that sold peanuts, peanut brittle, peanut butter, etc. but there was one lone

vendor with roasted peanuts. What a disappointment. We asked him why he was the only peanut vendor and he explained that Aubrey no longer grew peanuts. Exploring further, we found that in the 30s peanuts were a cheap and profitable crop to grow but by 2009 horses and houses replaced the peanut crop. We did not have enough saliva to enter the peanut spitting contest so we went on to our next stop in Aubrey….

2 Points – Activity – FORTUNATA Winery

Just a few miles from the festival we came to Fortunata Winery for a wine tasting. The server was very friendly and talked about the wines they grew and the tasting was quite reasonably priced. We found three in particular that we liked, one red, one white and one rosé so we supported the winery by buying a bottle of each.

2 points – Two EVITAS

Barbara: I thought I was lucky to have found the play EVITA for E month, but never expected to find two Evitas. They were both a little disappointing though. I love the song, “Don’t Cry For Me Argentina,” and the acting was quite good, but as a play it wasn’t my favorite. Especially disconcerting was the actor who played Juan Peron and looked like Ben Stiller in Zoolander. We found the second Evita at an exhibit in the Art Center of Plano. They were showcasing several female artists, including Evita Tezeno. Laura and I both liked her paintings but the exhibit itself was disappointing in that it was very small and there wasn’t any information about the artists to be found.

2 points – Book – American Housewife by Helen ELLIS

 Laura: In its dozen short stories, American Housewife paints a sarcastic, humorous and clever picture of contemporary American housewives of either the South or those residing in New York City.  Ms. Ellis is a master at giving voice to quirkiness and since I am a big fan of quirky characters, I absolutely loved the first chapter, “What I Do All Day.” Unfortunately, it set the bar too high, because, for me, none of the subsequent stories lived up to the promise of the first. However, I liked her writing well enough to check out her earlier work: “Eating the Cheshire Cat: A Novel” (the title alone is intriguing).

1 point – Learning Center

Barbara – Three Letter E’s

While looking up my usual one phrase origin, I came upon 2 ear related worms about which I knew nothing.

The expression I started off with, “eat crow”, came from an incident during the War of 1812 when the Americans invaded Canada. A hungry New England soldier who strayed across enemy lines had shot a crow for food when he was discovered by an unarmed British officer who managed to get hold of the American’s rifle by pretending to admire it. He then turned the weapon on the young man and forced him to eat part of the crow raw before letting him go. Therefore, when someone is humiliated we say they were forced to “eat crow”.

The other two words were EARWORM and EARMARK. I had never heard the word earworm before. According to the Merriam-Webster website, in the late 50’s the Germans applied the term to those songs that seem to crawl into your head and you can’t get them out. Since I have found that I can’t listen to the radio after 7 p.m. or the last song I hear will be in my head all night and will be the first thing in my head in the morning, I can definitely relate.

I tried to guess what the origins of earmark were. I was sure that I’d discover that centuries ago, before people started using candle wax for their seal on a document or envelope, they used the wax in their ears to stick the envelope closed. Yucky, I admit, but I was so proud of myself with coming up with what MUST be the right explanation. Alas, it came from the practice of making a cut or mark in the ear of a sheep or cow to signify ownership. I still prefer my theory.

Laura: EPONYMS

We all know about synonyms and antonyms but what about their distant relative “eponyms”?  I was delighted to come upon this intriguing “e” word and discover that eponyms are words that are named after people. Sometimes this is a compliment or tribute to the person, while other times it’s definitely displeasing. Here are a few examples of both:

Pleasing:

*Saxophone, after Adolphe Sax, who invented the instrument in 1846.

*Caesar Salad – after Restaurateur Caesar Cardini.

*Sandwich, after the Earl of Sandwich (some claim this is just fork lore)

*America, after the Italian map maker Amerigo Vespucci.

Displeasing:

*Lynching – after Captain William Lynch and Colonel Charles Lynch, two Revolutionary War officers from Virginia

*Boycott, after Charles Cunningham Boycott, an English estate manager who was known for his unfair rent practices and evictions in Ireland.

*Dunce, after John Duns, who back in medieval times loved wearing pointy hats, which later came to be regarded as symbols of dimwits and dopes.

2 points – Movie Theme

Barbara – EATING DISORDERS

I didn’t realize quite how disturbing these movies would be. I watched three of them: Thin, To The Bone and Eating: A Very Serious Comedy About Eating and Food.  I don’t profess to be an expert on eating disorders and I still don’t understand what brought some of these girls to that point, but the movies were heart wrenching. To hear someone say she wants to keep to 209 calories a day or that she wants to be thin so badly that if it takes dying to get there then so be it is extremely moving. While Thin was the most upsetting, I was also disturbed by Eating as it is a movie showing women in their 30s and up still obsessing about food. Some of things they talked about were that food was the only thing they could count on for unconditional love, that food was like an abusive lover, food is control, a silent companion. How did we go from the time period when the ideal woman’s form was more curvy and voluptuous to this point? Something to research at another time, I guess.

Laura – EUTHANASIA

When I think of the topic of EUTHANASIA, immediately Dr. Jack Kevorkian comes to mind as the doctor who championed a patient’s right to die by physician-assisted suicide. However, the film “You Don’t Know Jack” clearly showed me that I definitely don’t know jack about this topic or Dr. Death, as he was commonly called. For starters, he:

*Performed more than 125 assisted suicides – on patients who weren’t necessarily terminally ill (but they passed Jack’s criteria).

*Provided the lethal drug but had the patient push or flip a device that delivered the euthanizing drugs intravenously.

*Was tried but not convicted four times for assisting suicides, but the fifth time brought about a 10- to 25-year jail sentence for second degree murder when he, not the patient, actually administered the drug to one patient. (He served 8 years.)

Driven by his belief that intentionally ending a life to relieve suffering was everyone’s right, Dr. Kevorkian took a wrong turn when he allowed his tremendous ego and disregard for the law to cloud his judgment. A lot has happened since Jack’s first injection, but Euthanasia will continue to be a hot topic, since there is nothing tepid about ending a life, no matter what viewpoint you hold.

2 points – Activity:  EGG Art

When you are not particularly crafty or artistic, it’s a bit daunting to try out a project where your eggspectations for decent results are low. But that didn’t stop us! And, since nothing says art more than EGGS, we were set on our task. We scrambled to boil some eggs, poached a few waterproof paints and brushes from the grandkids’ toolbox and our eggceptional talent produced the eggstraordinary results pictured below.

WALK LIKE AN EGYPTIAN

2 points – New Restaurant –EGYPTIAN STREET FOOD – MUBROOKA

This restaurant reinforced our love for the ABC life. We never in a million years would have found it and tried Egyptian street food had we not been in E month. But we did and are so glad. The place was clean, the server was friendly and helpful, and the food absolutely delicious. We shared a dish of chicken over some great rice with a side of Egyptian falafel and also a traditional dish called Koshari, made of rice, macaroni and lentils mixed together and topped with a tomato sauce and garlic vinegar and garnished with chick peas and crispy fried onions. All we can say is YUM and we’ll be back!