We had to postpone N from last month. Between Laura’s visit to her family in San Francisco and Barbara’s visit from her family from Los Angeles, there was plenty of activity. At first, we were putting pressure on ourselves to do things for the letter N but then we took a step back and realized that it would be exactly the opposite of what our ABC Life is about.
But Nothing like the present! Starting N with a song…
Activity – NAME That Tune Bingo
Barbara – I got in the mood for N month with some bingo. But not any run of the mill bingo – Music Bingo at the City Works Eatery and Pour House. Laura couldn’t make it so I went with my friend, Pam. Somehow I had in my head that this was going to be a dive but I couldn’t have been more wrong. City Works was a nice restaurant with good food and good music. Instead of numbers on a bingo card, the emcee played a song segment and we had to “name that tune” by matching the title of the song to our bingo cards.
Whether you like bingo or not you’ll have fun just moving to the music of the 80s, 90s and other themes.
Movie theme – Neglect
Since we didn’t take care of business with N for an entire month, we felt it fitting to choose Neglect as our movie theme. We looked at both ends of the spectrum and selected two Oscar Nominated films – one about a child and one about elderly neglect. Capernaum is a hard movie to discuss. It focuses on a 12-year old Lebanese boy, Zain, who is neglected and abused and lives a life surrounded by poverty and crime. It culminates with him suing his parents for giving birth to him. His point was if you can’t take care of your children and give them love then why have them? We can’t help but agree with him.
Our other film, The Mole Agent, is a documentary about an elderly man who is hired by an agency to be a “resident spy” in a nursing home with the purpose of seeing if the agency’s client’s mother is being neglected and abused. We came to really like and admire the Mole who is extremely kind and patient with the other seniors. His conclusion was that there was no measurable neglect by the staff, but neglect was certainly a problem caused instead by the residents’ families. He found that the biggest problem in the home was loneliness, which could easily have been resolved (or at least reduced) by a visit to the loved one by the family that put him/her there in the first place.